“I held up a $20 bill and asked who wanted it. No one moved. A good 30 seconds later, one of the girls raised her hand and said, “We should make a rule about who gets it.”
Another girl raised her hand and declared, “It should go to the girl that got here first.”
Everyone looked around, and they all nodded in agreement.
We spent the next hour discussing how girls think about money and make decisions. Even when rules weren’t necessary, the girls refused to act and instead focused their energy on creating rules about who got the money.
Clearly, if men had been in the room, the women wouldn’t have stood a chance.
I asked, “Why?” The group preferred rules because rules establish a system of norms. “Then,” one astute girl laughed, “we can play within established parameters and still manipulate the rules to get our way.”
Instinctively, I responded, “And still be considered good girls?”
Without missing a beat, the group nodded in agreement.” Link