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De-escalation – Theory & Practice

De-escalation is the step when force is imminent (how’s that for ‘soft’ language- more real: if you don’t do something now the fight will be on in a few seconds). It is “talking ’em down”. It ranges from sympathy to weird non-sequitors to treating a threat like a thoughtful question to pure intimidation. It is a skill, and a more varied and more versatile skill than anything physical. But it is a skill, not an answer.
Some memorable successes:

“Turn your head to the side.”
“Why, mother fucker?” He glared hard.
“Cause you look like you’re thinking about fighting and you seem like a nice guy, so if you do start to fight and I smash you into the wall right there, if you turn your face to the side you won’t break any teeth.”
His glare changed to something more puzzled.
“It’s just a courtesy. You seem like a nice guy and you don’t need any dental bills. Just turn your head to the side.”
“I won’t be any trouble.”
“I appreciate that.”

“What’s your goal today, partner?” This is one of my universals. Most of the people who want to fight are unhappy, without really thinking about why, and want to do something, without really thinking about what. Once they put into words what they want , e.g.”I wanna go home” they often clearly see how fighting is not a step in that direction.

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