All of this is wrapped around one simple idea, that some people naturally want to serve and put someone else’s needs above their own.
III. You shall make your mission, not your woman, your priority
Forget all those romantic cliches of the leading man proclaiming his undying love for the woman who completes him. Despite whatever protestations to the contrary, women do not want to be “The One” or the center of a man’s existence. They in fact want to subordinate themselves to a worthy man’s life purpose, to help him achieve that purpose with their feminine support, and to follow the path he lays out. You must respect a woman’s integrity and not lie to her that she is “your everything”. She is not your everything, and if she is, she will soon not be anymore. Link
Bonding and attachment occur to both the Dominant and the submissive, though the intensity appears to be stronger on the part of the submissive in most cases. In many ways the Dominant penetrates the light shielding of the submissive. This occurs often with the willful aid of the submissive. A submissive ‘seeking’ a Dominant partner will frequently ‘open’ or lower their outer barriers or shields in the necessary effort to ‘align’ with the potential mate. To some extent there appears to be a period of time where the Dominant and submissive attempt to ‘match frequencies’, rather like a radio signal.
For a submissive to ‘detach’ from a strong Dominant is quite difficult even when both submissive and Dominant willfully agree to separate. They must be able to blockade the ‘Voice’. This is generally impossible if the submissive remains in physical proximity to the Dominant. Severance of contact, physical or phone, may be necessary for a considerable time frame for the ‘programming’ to dissipate and the shielding or buffers of the submissive to be reinstated. That submissive will continue to be susceptible to the Dominant as those access corridors may continue to exist over the duration of that submissive’s life. However, when the submissive attaches to a new Dominant, that new Dominant’s voice will form a shield which makes it virtually impossible for the submissive to ‘hear’ other Dominant voices in the same way. In a sense the submissive would have to ‘hear through’ the filtered shielding of their Dominant. The submissive will continue to be aware of or recognize other Dominant’s by their emoting presence but will in most cases not be vulnerable to being effected by them.
However, it is possible for a submissive who is bonded and attached to be taken by a Dominant who is stronger than their Dominant. This occurrence is quite rare as it is considered extremely bad form for a Dominant to trespass upon another Dominant’s submissive. In general within the community a Dominant will actively ‘not emote or project energy’ at or toward any submissive not their own. Link
Unlike sub-space, the dominant does not lose control of their thoughts or actions in most cases. The opposite occurs instead. Those who have described dom-space say it is like an intensifying of what is going on in a session. Some say they can feel the presence of the submissive, his/her heartbeat, breathing, and even thoughts. Some have described it as a mental bonding in which the dominant and submissive reach a place together in which words are no longer necessary and pure instinct takes over.
For some it is rather mild, for others they describe it as being almost psychic to the point where they can “see” the submissive and feel them even with their eyes closed. Link
It cannot be said that all slaves have a superior intellect, nor can it be said (truthfully) that all slaves are stupid. Logically speaking since both kinds of human intelligence exist, the same variations are found in slaves. However, less intelligent slaves have been rare in my experiences. I have seen slaves pretending to be stupid due to some mistaken belief that it makes them a better slave. This is not true. Often, these are people who are new to bdsm and master/slave with little experience. Slaves must be intelligent because they are often relied upon to handle many of life’s day-to-day aspects and to do so without constant supervision and directions. This requires problem-solving skills and extensive knowledge of how their owner prefers things to be. Slaves also need strong observation skills so they can learn what pleases their owner without them having to explain every tiny detail. Slaves are expected to learn quickly and to put their knowledge into practice on a consistent basis. Intelligence is required for these things and more.
A slave’s intelligence coupled with their strengths, individuality and self-reliance direct effects their ability to identify their own wants and needs and to separate them properly. Speaking on an basic level, people only need those things that sustain life (food, clothing, shelter and intellectual stimulation), and everything else is a want.
A slave must be able to tell the difference between things they truly need and things they want. This can be very hard to do, but with practice can be done. Someone with little intelligence, minimal self-awareness, and a lack of mental or emotional strength has a very hard time differentiating between the two. A slave who sees everything as an urgent need quickly frustrates their owner. This puts the slave’s focus on them selves over their owner and m/s will not work that way. Link
There is a level of acceptance of the dominant’s behavior that can be more intense and widespread than many submissives would allow. For example, a dominant wants to bring in a third to the relationship. A submissive may demand certain criteria be met before they allow ( yes, allow) such to occur, whereas a slave may say “It is not up to me, if this is what Master wants, so be it” and quietly accept this new change. To some this kind of thought process is considered wrong or somehow brought out by abuse, but this is not necessarily true. A slave thrives on the absolute fact, that they literally have no control over the relationship or what will occur within it, whereas a submissive often retains some level of control in the relationship. The thought process focuses solely on what would make the master/mistress happiest and how the slave can be most pleasing to them. Subs tend to think of themselves and their own pleasure in addition to that of their dominant. Slaves work very hard to put themselves second in all the things and their owners first. To them, this is what comes with being a slave and submitting completely. Slaves put forth a lot of effort in achieving an inner peace with their chosen position. With this peace comes acceptance of themselves, and a quiet sense of contentment. They view pride, arrogance and other such emotions as negative and unbecoming in a slave.
A slave’s behavior is different from a submissive as well. If you listen to slaves talk about their behavior (or watch them), they often speak of being quietly accepting, in control of themselves at all times, formal, and other such things. There seems to be more focus on how the slave behaves at any given moment, with less leeway. In many slave relationships, the slave is required to use an honorific at all times, and couldn’t conceive of calling their master/mistress by any other name. Most slaves find yelling, tantrums, fits, or any other out of control behavior on the part of a slave to be reprehensible and deserving of severe punishment. Slaves put a lot of emphasis on their behavior and how they react to their dominant. They hold themselves to a high level of self-control. They require of themselves to have a pleasing demeanor as much as possible. They see no room for bratting behavior, any form of topping from the bottom, or any other form of manipulating the dominant. They see bratting as topping from the bottom, whining, cajoling or making requests after the initial denial as manipulative behavior that focuses on the slave’s needs/desires instead of the dominant’s and thus not proper. They look down on any behavior that is perceived as designed to force the dominant to meet a need of the slave, rather than the slave focusing on the dom’s needs. Link